2012 Man Up Men’s Conference – Session 1

On April 20 & 21, 2012, the men from my church attended the 2012 Man Up Men’s Conference in Orlando, FL. The conference featured powerful and insightful messages from Jerry Thorpe & Jim Groves. This is the first post in the series.

The notes may be hard to follow, but feel free to browse them for insights. Especially, check out the “Notes & Quotes” section at the bottom.

Do you want to read more about manning up? Check out Robert Lewis’s books Raising Modern-Day Knights, Real Family Values, and Rocking the Roles. You’ll be better for it.

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Man Up Men’s Conference

Orlando, Florida

Speaker: Jerry Thorpe
Topic: The Challenges of Life
Text: 2 Timothy 2:15
Date: April 20, 2012

Outline:

1. Is the Lord Well-Pleased? (2 Timothy 2:15a)

You must have a passion for pleasing God.

2. Is Your Work Well-Done? (2 Timothy 2:15b)

You must have a passion for excellence.

Three areas that need a commitment to excellence:

 

  • You must be excellent in your marriage.
  • You must be excellent in your relationship with your children.
  • You must be excellent in your service to God.

 

3. Is the Word of God Well-Used in Your Life? (2 Timothy 2:15c)

You must have a passion for the Word of God.

 

  • If you make the Bible part of your life, it will change your life.

 

Notes & Quotes:

 

  • God is more concerned with what you are than what you look like.
  • “Being obsessed about what other people think about me is the quickest way to forget what God thinks about me.” – Craig Groeschel
  • “The three greatest days in a person’s life are the day they were born, the day they were born again, and the day they come to grips with why they were born and why they were born again.” – Howard Hendricks
  • For your kids, love is spelled TIME.

 

Book Review: Sun Stand Still

Sun Stand Still

God has gifted each of us with the capacity to do great things for him. But, unfortunately, some of us never reach our fullest potential. Lack of faith can be a big factor in our falling short of our potential. In Sun Stand Still, Pastor Steven Furtick challenges us to step out in audacious faith in our Great God and do big things for Him.

(Buy Sun Stand Still right now using my affiliate link to Amazon)

Book Highlights

Here are a few key passages from the book that might be thought-provoking for you. As a mini disclaimer, some of my notes below are direct quotes and some of them aren’t. I have the audio version and was listening in the car. It’s the best I could do :).

  • If the size of your vision for your life isn’t intimidating to you, there’s a good chance it’s insulting to God.
  • Our God isn’t intimidated by long-shot prayers.
  • If the dream in your heart isn’t biblically-based, focused on Jesus, affirmed by the key people in your life, and tethered to your passions, gifts, and life experiences, chances are that you are way off prompt. The best way to avoid being duped by a counterfeit is to make sure you’re familiar with the real thing.
  • Audacious faith begins with sanctified naïveté.
  • If you want to see God do something impossible in your life, you must open your heart and mind to God’s vision for your life.
  • My vision defines the parameters I live by.
  • A sun stand still prayer applies audacious faith to a clearly defined need or goal that requires God’s supernatural involvement.
  • The sun stand still prayers you pray will often be temporary and specific, but they will always flow from God’s vision for your life.
  • Audacious faith isn’t some new extra-biblical faith. It’s a return to the core of Christianity, trusting Jesus completely in every aspect of your life.
  • Extraordinary moves of God begin with ordinary acts of obedience.
  • 55% certainty that you’ve heard from God is enough to take the next step (cf. The Perhaps Paradox of Jonathan and his armor-bearer)
  • Divine vision creates divisions (cf. Joseph of Genesis)
  • He who lives by the approval of others will die by the absence of the same.
  • When you want what God wants for the reason He wants it, you are unstoppable.
  • The scope and depth of your vision isn’t based on how big God is, but it is based in how big you believe God is.
  • Audacious faith is all about the Living Word. Hearing the Word initiates faith. Speaking the Word activates faith. Doing the Word demonstrates faith. This is the process of faith formation.
  • Sometimes God let’s the sun go down so that He can be our only light.
  • There is a clear distinction between hope and faith. Hope is a desire. Faith is a demonstration. Hope is the blueprint. Faith is the contract. You can’t just stand in hope. You must walk in faith.
  • Part of the answer to your sun stand still prayer, just might be you.

Final thought: Get the book. It’s worth the challenge.

To all of my students (especially the ones who are in high school):

Please do not water down the English language by cheapening our words of value. Don’t make “love” the equivalent of “like.” it cheapens the real deal.

Take a look at this cute, thought-provoking video about this idea…
(And by the way, these guys have a lot of good videos. Check them out!)

Book Review: Mavericks At Work

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been listening to a leadership book recommended to me called Mavericks At Work by William C. Taylor and Polly Labarre. Listening to this book in the car while i’m driving really maximizes what would otherwise be dead-time for me. Audio books aren’t for everyone, and I wouldn’t necessarily recommend them to college students who need to be able to highlight passages and offer quotes word-for-word, but for me, this works. I just have to keep a notepad handy for thoughts and quotes that I’d like to remember.

With that in mind, I’d like to offer you my take-aways from Mavericks At Work

  • If you want innovation, hire outside your industry.
  • When you have distinct values, you more easily reject the status quo.
  • When you agitate people and they complain about you, it can actually be a good thing because it creates discussions about you.
  • Never focus on the “competition.” Instead, refocus on the customer.
  • What you think affects how you talk (Use Strategic Vocabulary).
  • if your business went out of business, who would really miss you and why?
  • None of us is as smart as all of us.
  • The smartest guy is not in the room.
  • The best ideas come from the most people.
  • To maximize your effectiveness, promote an atmosphere of participation and collaboration, especially from outside your organization.
  • The open source movement proves that the more smart people you can persuade to work on a problem the more likely it is to be solved.
  • You cannot motivate the best people with money. The best people are motivated by passion.
  • innovation is all about networking.
  • There is always demand for something distinctive.
  • You must be willing to ignore (even offend) those who aren’t integral to your mission.
  • Brand is culture. Culture is brand.
  • Great people want to be surrounded by and challenged by other great people.
  • Great people want to be part of something greater than themselves.
  • Culture is about head, heart, and guts. Head – You have to think it. Heart – You have to believe it. Guts – You have to act it… 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

 

The book is filled with compelling case studies and sound research. This makes it a little more dry than the leadership book by Ken Blanchard and Spencer Johnson, the parable entitled Who Moved My Cheese?, but it still has stories and glimpses of interactions between the researchers and business leaders. It is a book in the style of Jim Collins, author of Good To Great. Mavericks At Work is definitely worth the read…or in my case, it’s worth a listen. Check it out for yourself.

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Courageous, The Movie

A new movie is coming to theaters this weekend from the producers of Facing the Giants & Fireprood.

It’s called Courageous.

And, it focuses on a series of events in the lives of four law enforcement officers. These four men face incredible challenges that force them to evaluate their lives and to make decisions about what’s really important.

Here’s the trailer for the film.

We showed it on Sunday at my church. Yep, we pitched a movie in church. Pretty cool, huh? And, we even gave away free tickets. You see, we really believe that if we support films like this then more will be made. If we fail to support the few faith-based films that are made, then less will be made. Plus, we actually believe that a film like this can change lives. So, we’re encouraging our whole church to go together on Sunday night (opening weekend). We’re even making the movie event replace our evening service. Great idea, huh!

For more info on the movie, visit http://courageousthemovie.com.

What Does My Desk Say About Me

If you’ve been in my office, you know that my desk is…well, cluttery. I usually apologize for the clutter when people visit my office, and I usually quip that the messiness of my desk is an indicator of my level of busyness. As it turns out, Donald Trump believes the same way I do! Check out this video…shot from his desk.

Managers & Makers

In this world, some of us are managers and some of us are makers (I’ll explain this in a minute). And because of this, there is tension when our worlds collide, or more specifically when our schedules collide. We work for the same company, and we share the same office building, but our schedules are different. What it takes to get things done looks different if you are someone who manages or someone who makes. Let me unpack this a bit because chances are you’ve experienced this tension.

The Manager

The manager’s typical day looks like a series of one-hour segments (half-hour segments if you’re super-organized). It might look something like this: an hour in the morning tending to emails, the next hour dedicated to preparing for the 11:00am meeting, the next hour actually having the meeting, an hour for a business lunch, an hour on the phone, an hour hearing from your direct reports, and so on. Before you know it, the day is done, and you go home…for another series of one-hour events: dinner with the family, putting the kids to bed, an hour watching or two watching TV. Then, you go to bed because you’ll be doing the same thing tomorrow. If ever an unplanned interruption happens upon his day or if there’s an impromptu meeting that’s called, he loses an hour, but then jumps right back on schedule with no problems. The hour-managed day is how he gets stuff done.

The Maker

The maker’s schedule is much harder to describe. It does break down into nice one-hour segments. Instead, the maker works with chunks of time. In the office, he might think, “I’ve got the morning, and I’ve got the afternoon.” Throw a meeting or unplanned interruption in the mix, and he loses the entire chunk of time. That’s because the work that he does requires hours of focused time to complete. He’s a maker: an author, a creator of art, a web designer, a computer programmer, a speech writer, an architect, and so on. You get the idea. And by the way, these guys are also prone to do some pretty crazy things work-wise. They wake up in the middle of the night and write a hundred pages for an upcoming book. They stay up late into the night (or early morning, depending on how you look at it), and write a couple hundred lines of code. They can’t stop when something good is happening. This is how they make stuff.

The Tension

The tension should be quite obvious. The managers and the makers have to interact. There are meetings, phone calls, impromptu conversations about necessary project changes. Life happens, and the worlds collide.

The Conclusion

The tension will always be there. It just has to be managed (Andy Stanley talks about managing tension). You have to know that it’s there and act accordingly. Be respectful and considerate of the managers and the makers in your life. If your a manager, plan as many of the interactions as you can with the makers in one block of time, freeing up their alternate block of the day, and try not to interrupt them unnecessarily. If your a maker, understand that meetings have to take place, and let everyone know when you “available” time slots are, politely asking people not to disturb the creative process.

So, what do you think? Have you experienced this tension? I have. And in case you were wondering, I’m a hybrid of both. I live in a managers environment with responsibilities in that area, but I also make a lot of things because of my role at my church. I guess, I have it even worse because I have an inward tension :). But, that’s life, and I enjoy making and managing.

(I started thinking about this concept two years ago, when I read this article by Paul Graham)

What You Say Matters…But So Does How You Say It

The facts matter. They really do, but if you can’t communicate them in a way that makes sense to people, then the facts lose their impact. Take these two tablet advertisements for example (embedded at the bottom of the page). Both are the same length, and both are clever in their own way. But, from an emotional standpoint, the iPad 2 commercial probably wins. The reality is that the average non-techie person, who doesn’t care about the internal specs, gets lost when you start talking about Flash, Tegra processors, and LTE upgradeable. They just want to know if it “works.” In other words, will it do what I want it to do? Can’t you see your Dad saying that?

The take away is this, Christianity is the truth. The Bible has the answers to life’s challenging questions. Our task is to find ways to communicate the truth to those around us in ways that make sense. We need to put the cookies on the lower shelf so that everyone can reach them. The message can be made relevant and simple while still maintaining it’s doctrinal integrity. So, let’s get to it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fz6Z6S3Q5M

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TFFkK2SmPg4

(Thanks to The iPhone Blog for the inspiration for this post)

A Challenge for Men

This is a preview of what we’re doing at my church on Sunday for Father’s Day…

We’re showing the Mark Driscoll message and giving all of the men who attend a copy of the Man Code DVD series. It’s going to be an in-your-face experience for all of the men, but it’s exactly what we need to hear.

My Missions Trip to Belize

The last few weeks have been hugely busy for me.  So, I haven’t been able to post much.  But, I did want to show you my recent missions trip to Belize (the video is below). We just got back in town last week.  The trip was excellent.  It was a real privilege and pleasure to be able to go to Belize again this year.

Whenever we go on missions trips, we always try to be a blessing to the people, the local church, and especially our missionaries.  On this trip, we built a Sunday School building for the church located at Bullet Tree, we saw the MANNA Feeding Center that we support in the Valley of Peace, and we got a chance to be a blessing to our missionaries.  We really tried to go above and beyond as it relates to being a blessing, but the truth is…we were the one’s who received the bigger blessing.

As I sat down to prepare for our testimony night, I realized that I was blessed in at least 5 ways.  And, I want to share them with you:

1. I was blessed to GO – I wasn’t initially supposed to go, but I’m sure glad god worked it out for me to be a part of this team.

2. I was blessed to GUIDE the team – The team had a varied background (age, ethnicity, and gender), and there were potential health risks (high blood pressure, epilepsy, 4 diabetics, 3 cancer survivors, and 2 over 70 years old).  But, God was gracious, and our team blend was better than I could have asked for.

3. I was blessed to GET TO KNOW our missionaries – I love missionaries! And, I love trying to shower them with blessings. This year, I got to see Dan Weaver nearly every day, and I got to hang out with the Smiths all of the time. We ate practically every meal together. If “hanging out” was a spiritual gift, I’d say I have it because I really like to hang out with missionaries.

4. I was blessed to GIVE so much away – We took stuff from the US to give to our missionaries personally and to their church as well.  Even more exciting was the opportunity to see our team give so generously…many suitcases came home empty because our team just gave so much away…completely unplanned.

5. I was blessed to see GOD work – He kept us safe. He provided what I like to call “mini miracles.” He guided us every step of the way. If it’s been a while since you’ve seen God work, read this and pray this prayer, “Lord, I know that you are working somewhere.  Please guide me to that place where you are already working so that I can rejoice with others when you get the glory.”

And now…here’s the video!

http://vimeo.com/22534639